Why Aren't You Getting The Second Gift? Mastering Nonprofit Donor Relationships

We're diving into a crucial topic that could revolutionize your fundraising strategy: the elusive second gift. You know, that moment when your first-time donor becomes a repeat supporter? Yeah, that's what we're talking about. So, buckle up, because we're about to unpack why you might be nailing that first gift but stumbling on the second.

The "Second Date Update" Phenomenon in Nonprofit Fundraising

Let me tell you about this hilarious thing I found on TikTok called "Second Date Update." It's basically a radio show where people try to figure out why they didn't get a second date after what they thought was a great first one. Sound familiar? It's eerily similar to what happens with donor relationships sometimes.

Here's the deal: just like in dating, the key to securing that second gift lies in effective communication and understanding your donor's needs. According to a study by the Fundraising Effectiveness Project, only 19% of first-time donors make a second gift. That's a lot of potential support slipping through our fingers!

Three Lessons for Stronger Donor Relationships

  1. Ask for What You Want Folks, it's okay to advocate for your needs, even with donors. You're not a remote control that changes channels at their every whim. Set boundaries, communicate your preferences, and remember - it's a relationship, not a dictatorship. For example, if a donor suggests a meeting time that doesn't work for you, it's okay to propose an alternative. You might say, "I appreciate your suggestion. To ensure I can give you my full attention, could we meet at 2 PM instead?" This shows respect for both their time and yours.

  2. Navigate Feedback Like a Pro When donors give you feedback, resist the urge to deflect, dismiss, or deny. Instead, make them feel seen, heard, and understood. You don't have to agree, but you do need to empathize. Remember, donors will give to the level they feel appreciated. Let's say a donor expresses disappointment about how their gift was acknowledged. Instead of getting defensive, try something like, "I'm so sorry you felt that way. Your support means a lot to us, and we clearly missed the mark in showing our appreciation. Can you tell me more about what you expected? This will help us improve for the future."

  3. Embrace the 'No' A 'no' isn't a rejection; it's just not the right fit at that moment. Don't lash out or take it personally. Instead, thank them for their time and leave the door open for future opportunities. The faster you get to 'no', the quicker you'll find your 'yes'. If a donor declines to give again, you might respond with, "Thank you for considering our request. We appreciate your past support and understand that now might not be the right time. Would it be alright if we keep you updated on our progress? We'd love to stay connected."

Applying These Lessons to Secure That Second Gift

So, how does this translate to getting that coveted second gift? It's all about building a relationship based on mutual understanding and respect. Here's how:

  1. Clearly communicate your organization's needs and how the donor's support makes a difference. Share specific stories and impacts that resulted from their first gift.

  2. When a donor expresses concerns or gives feedback, listen actively and respond with empathy. Use this as an opportunity to deepen your understanding of their motivations and preferences.

  3. If a donor declines to give again, accept it gracefully and keep the relationship positive. Continue to engage them in non-financial ways, such as inviting them to events or sharing updates.

Remember, the more decision-making power you give to donors, the more likely they are to choose what you want. It's about creating an environment where they feel valued and in control.

The Power of Personalization

One strategy that can significantly boost your second gift success is personalization. This goes beyond just using the donor's name in your communications. It's about tailoring your approach based on what you know about their interests, giving history, and engagement with your organization.

For instance, if you know a donor is particularly interested in a specific program, make sure to highlight the impacts of that program in your communications with them. If they prefer email over phone calls, respect that preference. The more you can show that you understand and value their individual preferences, the stronger your relationship will become.

Wrapping It Up: Your Action Plan for Second Gift Success

Alright, nonprofit champions, here's what I want you to do:

  1. Review your communication strategy with first-time donors. Are you clearly expressing your needs and the impact of their support?

  2. Practice active listening and empathetic responses to donor feedback. Role-play challenging scenarios with your team to improve your skills.

  3. Develop a positive approach to handling 'no's that keeps the door open for future engagement.

  4. Implement a system for tracking donor preferences and personalizing your communications.

By implementing these strategies, you're not just chasing a second gift - you're building lasting relationships that will sustain your organization for years to come.

And hey, if you want to dive deeper into these strategies and really up-level your influence, check out my Intensive course. It's a game-changer, folks! Visit courageouscommunication.com/connect to learn more and book a quick intro call with me.

Remember, securing that second gift isn't about pushing or selling - it's about building authentic connections. You've got this!

Maryanne Dersch